Your Avoidant Series

This series is an exploration into my avoidant attachment style both in platonic and romantic relationships. This series includes three pieces that represent childhood trauma and three pieces that represent the avoidant behaviors that I exhibit as an adult as a result of those childhood experiences.

Avoidant attachment can develop when a child’s primary caregiver is unresponsive to their needs, or doesn’t show care beyond providing basic needs. Avoidant attachment is characterized by withdrawal from emotional closeness, denial of emotions, independence, and self-sufficiency.

I have trouble pinpointing specific memories or experiences that could lead to developing an avoidant attachment. For a long time I was unaware that these avoidant behaviors were even issues at all or that there was deeper emotions and connection available. My struggles with openness, deep personal connnections and self sabotaging behaviors were brought to light by Morgan Chantelle through lots of conversations, sharing, reading, arguing, and care. The creation of this work has been a process of working backwards. After defensively rejecting the thought of my issues, reverting to familiar avoidant patterns, self-sabotaging, and starting to work to accept them I began digging through memories and my childhood to try to get to the root of those behaviors. This series is the result of that on going work.